Medically Reviewed By

Brittany Kowalski, LCSW, ACS, CCS

Clinical Director, Speranza Behavioral Health · Last clinically reviewed July 2026

Grief, Loss, and Addiction: Why Bereavement Can Trigger Substance Use

Grief is one of the most universal and most painful of human experiences. The loss of a loved one, the end of a significant relationship, the loss of identity through illness or disability, the cumulative grief of addiction-related losses — these experiences produce a level of psychological pain that can push people toward whatever provides relief.

For many people, that relief comes in the form of substances. The relationship between unprocessed grief and substance use is well-documented, clinically significant, and far too rarely addressed in addiction treatment.

How Grief and Addiction Intersect

Grief as a Trigger for New Substance Use or Relapse

Research consistently identifies significant loss as a major relapse trigger for people in recovery and a common precipitant for new substance use in people without prior addiction history. The mechanism is self-medication: grief produces acute psychological pain, sleep disruption, loss of appetite, inability to concentrate, and a sense of disconnection from life that substances can temporarily relieve.

• Alcohol is the most commonly used substance for grief self-medication — blunting acute emotional pain and facilitating social interaction at wakes and memorial events
• Benzodiazepines are sometimes prescribed (often inappropriately) for short-term grief management, creating risk of dependence in vulnerable individuals
• Opioids produce a profound sense of emotional warmth and absence of pain that can become compulsive in the context of grief
• Cannabis is increasingly used to manage grief-related sleep disruption, rumination, and emotional overwhelm

The Grief of Addiction Itself

People in addiction treatment are often simultaneously processing profound loss — not only personal bereavements but the losses that addiction itself has caused:

• Loss of relationships destroyed by addiction
• Loss of career, financial stability, or reputation
• Loss of time — years spent in active addiction
• Loss of identity — "who I was before"
• Grief over harm done to people they love
• In some cases, the loss of friends or loved ones to overdose — a particularly traumatic grief common in people emerging from opioid addiction

This grief, if unaddressed, fuels the guilt, shame, and hopelessness that drive relapse.

Overdose Grief and Survivor's Guilt

A particularly significant and underrecognized form of grief in addiction treatment populations is overdose loss — the grief of losing a friend, partner, or family member to overdose. People who survive the opioid epidemic often do so while losing people they care about deeply. The resulting grief is complicated by:

• Survivor's guilt ("Why am I alive and they're not?")
• Trauma from witnessing the overdose
• Social disenfranchisement — grief over an overdose death is not always supported in the same way as other forms of bereavement
• The association of grief with the environments and substances of shared use

What Is Complicated Grief?

Complicated grief (also called prolonged grief disorder) is clinically distinct from normal bereavement. It's characterized by:

• Intense yearning and longing for the deceased that doesn't diminish over time
• Difficulty accepting the reality of the loss
• Feeling that life is meaningless without the deceased
• Bitterness or anger related to the loss
• Difficulty engaging in positive activities or future planning
• Social withdrawal and profound isolation

Complicated grief is more strongly associated with substance use than normal grief, and it requires targeted therapeutic intervention — not just time.

Treating Grief and Addiction Together at Speranza

At Speranza Behavioral Health in Woodbury, NJ, our clinical approach recognizes that unaddressed grief is a relapse risk factor and addresses it directly within our PHP and IOP programs:

Individual therapy — Licensed therapists provide grief-focused individual therapy alongside addiction treatment. Therapies used include Complicated Grief Treatment (CGT), CBT for grief, and EMDR for traumatic loss.

Group therapy — Processing shared grief experiences in a peer recovery community can be profoundly therapeutic. Hearing others who have lost people to addiction, and who are rebuilding, reduces the isolation of grief.

Psychoeducation — Understanding grief's normal course, its stages, and the distinction between productive grief processing and substance-mediated grief avoidance.

Trauma-focused care — For grief complicated by traumatic loss (overdose death, violent loss, sudden unexpected death), EMDR is particularly effective.

Speranza Behavioral Health — Woodbury, NJ. Call (866) 814-0126 for a free, confidential assessment.

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About the Author

Brittany Kowalski

Brittany Kowalski is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) and behavioral health advocate at Speranza Behavioral Health in Woodbury, NJ. With over a decade of experience in addiction recovery and mental health treatment, she specializes in dual diagnosis care, trauma-informed therapy, and evidence-based outpatient programs serving South Jersey communities.